There are whole books written on forgiveness.
We give talks about forgiveness.
We have tons of articles on the internet about it too.
Forgiveness is deep as shit.
But maybe... just maybe... Fuck all of that for a second.
Maybe you don't need to reflect super long, meditate on something, evaluate the situation or psychoanalyze anybody.
Maybe forgiveness is just a snap decision.
Here I wrote about how my ex-girlfriend disappeared entirely on me. My friend all felt I had good reasons to give her hell, but I didn't. I told her I wasn't angry or anything like that when she asked if I hated her.
It just came out of my mouth.
In my past I fucked up so badly before that I thought the friend I wronged would crucify me. He didn't. He forgave me on the spot. We are good buddies today.
The point is, there is an element in forgiveness in which you just forgive someone even though you don't feel like it.
Even though you don't have a good reason to.
Even though others tell you not to.
Even though it feels crazy to.
But you just fucking do it anyway.
It comes out of your mouth. You said the words. You decided on the spot that you want to be peace.
Then the magic happens.
You're like, "Oh okay. I did that. Doesn't feel so bad."
Before you know it, you're moving on.
Don't think about forgiveness. Just do it. It's an act. Not a theory.